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“7 Steps To Rebuild Your Life”

I am honored to have the opportunity to share with you the 7 steps I took to have a new life after the darkness I experienced back in fall of 2005. I was in a car accident that left me with a broken body and a broken soul. Life as I knew it was over. I had to be open to learn a new way of living or I was going to die. Over the next 7 weeks I am going to share with you how I over came my bondage in hopes it will reach someone out there that may need help with their own life.
Here are the steps I took to create a new way of living.
1) Desperation
2) Acceptance
3) Surrender
4) Goal Setting
5) Knowledge is Power
6) Visualization/Power of The Mind
7) Accountability/Commitment
I believe these steps can help anyone overcome bondage they are experiencing. I am starting to apply these steps in my fitness business with great success. I have found there is a reason some people experience true-life change and some people do not. I feel so strong about this concept that I am changing my company name from VIP Fitness to Kpaul Fitness because it is time to use my life experience to reach out and help others. I have hired my new head trainer, Stu Schaefer, in my business. Stu wrote a fitness book where he too shared about overcoming a bondage that controlled his life. We are on a mission to help people that just don’t know how to get better and are searching for a solution.
My first step to freedom is Desperation. I define this as “when the pain of self is greater than the pain of change”. I have found that this is a tremendous gift. I know what you are thinking –“Kent, you are crazy, how can that be a gift?” Well, let me tell you something, without pain true change cannot occur. Pain is the ultimate motivator. We have basic instincts that lead us to relieve pain. The danger of this instinct is that most people medicate this pain through drugs, alcohol, food, sex, gambling, etc. After time this self-medication can lead to life destruction and possibly death. The goal is to have tools, such as my program, to have in place when this pain comes before resorting to unhealthy medication.
When my pain and darkness came, back in the fall of 2005, I had no tools to get through it, so I turned to self-medication. My life spiraled completely out of control. I lost all control of my daily life. The gift, in my case, is that the pain of living that way was greater than the pain of changing everything about my life.
Now I am not saying everyone has to go through the kind of pain I went through but I am saying you must identify your pain or discomfort. Are you in mild discomfort or is your life out of control? For example, do you just want to drop a dress size for a class reunion, or are your daily habits taking over your life resulting in loss of relationships, or even to the point of contemplating suicide. There are many levels of pain or discomfort.
I ask that we all look with in ourselves and clearly label where we are at in life and what we need to change. Then ask ourselves is the pain of my state of living greater than the discomfort it will take to change things in life? This is my foundation to true change.

Stay tuned for next week when I will talk about Step 2 – Acceptance

WEEK 2 –

I am honored to have the opportunity to share with you the 7 steps I took to have a new life after the darkness I experienced back in fall of 2005. I was in a car accident that left me with a broken body and a broken soul. Life as I knew it was over. I had to be open to learn a new way of living or I was going to die. Over the next 7 weeks I am going to share with you how I over came my bondage in hopes it will reach someone out there that may need help with their own life.
Here are the steps I took to create a new way of living.
1)Desperation
2)Acceptance
3)Surrender
4)Goal Setting
5)Knowledge is Power
6)Visualization/Power of The Mind
7)Accountability/Commitment

Last week I explained the first step, which is Desperation. I define this as” when the pain of self is greater than the pain of change.”
This week I am discussing the Second step to “The 7 steps to Freedom” which is Acceptance. My definition is: the ability to have self-approval of one’s currant state. In other words being able to identify exactly where you are in life is key for all of us to make it clear where we need to go to have freedom and peace.
When I was in my darkest hour in the winter of 2005, all I could think of was how my best days of my life were behind me. I thought because I was all busted up inside and out, that I would never amount to anything again. My thinking was if I couldn’t be this muscular icon of fitness then I am a loser and have nothing to offer the world. My entire self esteem and self-identity was connected to my appearance. All my life I thought the only way I would be accepted and liked would come from my appearance. At the time I thought I was going to be handicapped from the car accident and never recover so my body would just rot away. I could not get myself to Accept the place I was in life. I could not deal with the vision of my future so I started self medicating to block the pain, both physically and emotionally. I was in extreme self-pity. Accepting the fact that my life was going to change was not something I was able to do at that time.10 months of living in hell took place before I could start to accept my true situation and start to create the solution for me to develop a new life, which are these 7 steps.

In the summer of 2007 a beautiful middle – aged women that was about 40 lbs overweight came in my office wanting me to design a custom nutrition and workout program for her. I proceeded in my normal fashion by asking her some questions about the situation. I asked about her history with diets and workout programs. She instantly started to cry. I paused and asked her to take a deep breath and tell me what she was feeling and why. She said that she just can’t stick to any kind of health and fitness plan. She has suffered from the yo-yo syndrome for more than 15 years. She can only stay on a plan for a couple months and then quit. She will lose 10 –20 pounds but gain it all back. I decided to meet with her husband of 20 years to ask him, with her in the room, what he thought was the problem with this 15 year pattern she was in. We talked for about 2 hours discusses everything about her life patterns, habits, childhood, you name it. She said something in this talk that rang my bell. She said that she hates the fact that her sister and her best friend can eat and drink whatever they want and not gain weight. She said, with a very serious angry expression, that she HATES watching her diet and her weight. My conclusion is that she is living with some serious resentment in her life. She in mad at God and the world because she is made a little different than her friends and family. She could not ACCEPT her currant state of being. After her first child her body changed and started to gain some weight. This happens to many women. I see women’s hormones and metabolism change all the time after giving birth. People need to accept the change and make a game plan to over come that change in life. This woman never could accept that her body has changed and she needs to adjust her lifestyle and habits accordingly. She was living in denial and in resentment. As far as I know, she is still out there living a very unhappy life. My heart goes out to her.
Now, I know this story is not a life and death story but it is a story about a person living in bondage and not resting in freedom.
I am on a mission to help people live in peace and joy. I am taking these 7 weeks to share my story and stories of others to talk about things most people want to hide, deny, resist, and ignore. You don’t have to live an empty, hollow existence.
In conclusion I want to leave you with 5 thoughts.
1) Embrace the place you are in life
2) No more self – pity
3) Release any resentment you have toward people, places, and things.
4) Look at your part in the current situation
5) Rise above and overcome.

Get busy Livin or get busy dyin… (Shawshank Redemption)

Week 3

I am honored to have the opportunity to share with you the 7 steps I took to have a new life after the darkness I experienced back in fall of 2005. I was in a car accident that left me with a broken body and a broken soul. Life as I knew it was over. I had to be open to learn a new way of living or I was going to die. Over the next 7 weeks I am going to share with you how I over came my bondage in hopes it will reach someone out there that may need help with their own life.
Here are the steps I took to create a new way of living.
1)Desperation
2)Acceptance
3)Surrender
4)Goal Setting
5)Knowledge is Power
6)Visualization/Power of The Mind
7)Accountability/Commitment

This is a seven-week series discussing one step of freedom each week.
Week one I explained the first step, which is Desperation. I define this as” when the pain of self is greater than the pain of change.”
Last week I explained the Second step to “The 7 steps to Freedom” which is Acceptance. My definition is: the ability to have self-approval of one’s currant state. In other words being able to identify exactly where you are in life is key for all of us to make it clear where we need to go to have freedom and peace.
This week I will talk about the third step to freedom, which is Surrender. I define this as having the willingness to follow another way of living.
Once again, looking back on the 10 months following my car accident, I see where I fell short of this crucial step. My friends and family saw the extreme pain I was in mentally, emotionally, and physically. They all tried to get me help from doctors, therapists, counselors, etc. I did not want to hear anything from anybody. I was convinced I could work my way out of this deep depression on my own. I thought I would wake up one day and everything would be ok.
Throughout my entire life I always had the answers to life. If something were broken I would fix it. If I wanted something in my life I would go get it. Life was always simple and easy for me, until now. I found out in about 2 months after the car accident that this was going to be something that my self will could not fix. Once I started the substance abuse the gloves were off and the fight was on.
I got to the place of no return. I was convinced that my best days on the planet were over. I had nothing to live for. So I reached to chemicals to relieve this mental pain. Once I used this as my solution it had a life hold on me. I could not face one day without numbing myself to even face the world. My heart goes out to anyone out there in the world that knows this level of pain and loneliness. This cycle started in April 2006. By the end of June 2006 I was praying to God that I would not wake up in the morning. July 1, 2006 I felt I had no choice but to plan a way to leave this world. My family stepped in and stopped me on July 3. They begged me to try to surrender my self over to another way of living and I said yes, thank God. I had to reach a bottom that was unimaginable before I was willing to surrender myself over to follow a new plan of life.
Now let me tell you a story on a much lighter note that relates to the health and fitness world. A man came to me in the winter of 2007 that wanted to be more fit and healthy. He wanted to lose about 50 lbs. He was in his late thirties and had been heavy most of his life. He was a strong and powerful man that had always been known to be the dominant male. He was also having a little heart and blood pressure trouble. His wife convinced him that he needed to lose some size and lower his blood pressure for his long-term health. So I designed a custom diet and exercise plan for him. I could tell by his domineer that he did not think he needed any help. He felt he was strong, smart, and in control of his life and he could do it on his own but he was following his wife suggestion by coming to me for help. So he accepted my program and away he went.
We started to meet every 2 weeks to go over his results and talk about his diet and workouts. After 1 month, he was not changing at all. I ask him to start writing down everything he was eating and record all his workouts. He said, “Ok, fine”. Our next meeting I looked at his log and he was not at all following my program. I asked him what was going on. He said, “oh, well I know my body and I know what to eat and how to exercise”. He argued with me for 6 weeks over his control issues and how he knew everything yet he was getting no results at all. I finally went to his wife and had a meeting with her. I told her, with his permission, what was going on. She became very angry with him and told him he better follow the plan or he was going on medication for his blood pressure and heart problems. It apparently scared him enough to start following my program very closely. The end result was that he lost over sixty lbs on 6 months and has never been happier or healthier.
My point to my story and the story of this man is the power of surrender.
I believe its in our nature, many times, as human being to be self sufficient and think we can control everything in our lives. I know how hard it is to give up control and be vulnerable to another way of doing things. The reason it is in my 7 steps to freedom is because its over looked yet so important to realize.
My advice is if you are struggling with some bondage or struggle in your life and can’t seem to overcome it seek someone or something that knows your struggle and has been where you are. Follow a system that has tools and techniques that has been proven for success and has a strong track record. You may have to do some homework and research the best possible system that can work for you. Once you find it – Surrender your self to the process and don’t look back. Never give up – Rise Above – God Is Good.

Week 4

I am honored to have the opportunity to share with you the 7 steps I took to have a new life after the darkness I experienced back in fall of 2005. I was in a car accident that left me with a broken body and a broken soul. Life as I knew it was over. I had to be open to learn a new way of living or I was going to die. Over the next 7 weeks I am going to share with you how I over came my bondage in hopes it will reach someone out there that may need help with their own life.
Here are the steps I took to create a new way of living.
*Desperation
*Acceptance
*Surrender
*Goal Setting
*Knowledge is Power
*Visualization/Power of The Mind
*Accountability/Commitment

This is a seven-week series discussing one step of freedom each week.
Week one I explained the first step, which is Desperation. I define this as” when the pain of self is greater than the pain of change.”
Week two, I explained the Second step to “The 7 steps to Freedom” which is Acceptance. My definition is: the ability to have self-approval of one’s currant state. In other words being able to identify exactly where you are in life is key for all of us to make it clear where we need to go to have freedom and peace.
Last week I talked about the third step to freedom, which is Surrender. I define this as having the willingness to follow another way of living.
This week I am going to talk about Goal Setting, which is step 4. My definition is “the process of defining the purpose and steps to accomplish a change in one’s life within a specific time line.”
The first part of this step is understanding and defining what it is you want to accomplish and why? Being uncomfortable or miserable is not enough to set up a successful program of change. We all must understand what we want to change and why. For example, when I was in my misery after my car accident I did not, at first understand what and why I needed to change. All I could understand was that I wanted out of this pain. Things did not get better until I identified what I needed to change and why. Which was my internal dialog and mental programming along with understanding who and what I was as a person. When new clients sit down in my office and tell me they want to be thinner and healthier I ask them why and what would that mean to them?
The next part of this step is motivation. It is crucial to right down on paper what is the motivation behind this program of change. This will be the fuel that is needed behind the daily fire that is needed day in and day out. Let me use my example when I was training for the Mr. Colorado Body Building Championship. I was performing 100 minutes per day of cardio, one and a half hours of weight training, half hour of posing, tanning, and cooking all my meals everyday for 16 weeks. I never took a day off. Now, to keep this kind of regiment up I had to be very clear all day everyday of my motivation. At 6 am every morning before my first workout, I had to pause and identify why I was going to work my tail off that day. My motivation was to be the best body builder I could possibility be. I committed to myself that I would not quit no matter what and not to have any regrets when it was all over. I knew if I lost yet I did everything I possibly could that I would walk away with my head held high. I will tell you this, there were times in those 16 weeks of working out 4 hours a day I wanted to through in the towel but I did not because I was very clear about my goals and my motivation which was to be the best.
Which brings me to my last part of this step – Writing down short and long term goals. I heard a long time ago from a motivational speaker that a goal without writing it down was nothing but a wish. Psychologists have done studies on the change in brain chemistry when people write what we are thinking down on paper. We put ink to paper and ideas and goals become more realistic to us.
I suggest that you visualize what your long-term goal is. For example to might be to lose 60 lbs and drop 8 sizes. This may be a dream come true for you. First, you need to write it down on paper. Now, put that piece of paper in a safe place. This big goal may seem over whelming for you and I understand that feeling which is why we design a short term goal system. I recommend talking to a fitness professional to design a realistic goal system. For example, if your goal is to lose 60 lbs you must break in down in steps such as a 30 lbs loss in 6 months, 15 lbs loss in 3 months, and 5 lbs loss in the first month. Focus on what you can do one day at a time to accomplish your new goal. Once you have established all the goals the only thing to think about is what you can do today.. Try not to think past the next 24 hours or you may get over whelmed and frustrated.
An example of this was when, once again, I was training for the Mr. Colorado Championships. At 16 weeks out my body fat percentage was at 14. I knew if I wanted to win I needed to get down to under 3 percent. This seemed to be impossible to do. I had no choice but to surrender myself to a fitness program that was designed to accomplish this goal. I forced myself to only think about what I could do the next 24 hours to accomplish this goal. I strived to go to bed each night knowing I did all I possibly could to be my best. I did this over and over until the 16 weeks was up and when I won I was down to 2 percent and won the overall title. I know if my thoughts were only on that 2 percent I would most likely have quit because it would have been too over whelming.
My point to this article is to be very clear on what you want to accomplish but take on day at a time. Be all you can be, TODAY. Dreams can come true. Don’t be afraid to make a change in your life that can result in excellence!

RISE ABOVE

Week 5

I am honored to have the opportunity to share with you the 7 steps I took to have a new life after the darkness I experienced back in fall of 2005. I was in a car accident that left me with a broken body and a broken soul. Life as I knew it was over. I had to be open to learn a new way of living or I was going to die. Over the next 7 weeks I am going to share with you how I over came my bondage in hopes it will reach someone out there that may need help with their own life.
Here are the steps I took to create a new way of living.
*Desperation
*Acceptance
*Surrender
*Goal Setting
*Knowledge is Power
*Visualization/Power of The Mind
*Accountability/Commitment

This is a seven-week series discussing one step of freedom each week.
Week one I explained the first step, which is Desperation. I define this as” when the pain of self is greater than the pain of change.”
Week two, I explained the Second step to “The 7 steps to Freedom” which is Acceptance. My definition is: the ability to have self-approval of one’s currant state. In other words being able to identify exactly where you are in life is key for all of us to make it clear where we need to go to have freedom and peace.
Week three I talked about the third step to freedom, which is Surrender. I define this as having the willingness to follow another way of living.
Last week I talked about Goal Setting, which is step four. My definition is “the process of defining the purpose and steps to accomplish a change in one’s life.”
This week I will talk about step five which is Knowledge is Power. My definition of this is the acquired know how to optimize progress toward a personal goal.. This step is my overall expertise in the fitness industry. I am an Exercise Kinesiologist and a Nutritionist. I also have fifteen years experience in designing custom fitness and life change programs. The first four steps is the foundation necessary to allow this step to work. I can design the best fitness and nutrition plan in the world but if a person is not ready to follow that plan and make a change in their life then no plan in the world will work. That’s why this step is number five not number one.
In the beginning of my career and fresh out of college, I was full of book knowledge and ready to cure the world. After the first year in this business I asked myself why people were not getting the results I expected. I realized all I was doing was designing diet and workouts plans but was not teaching about the internal fitness and conditioning that I talked about in steps one through four. I just want to make it clear that we all must become fit from the inside out.
I began training for bodybuilding in 1991. The only knowledge I had at that time was what I read in the fitness magazines and what people told me in the gym. I spent years working hard and getting very little results. I could not figure it out and was getting very discouraged. One summer in 1993 I took a trip out to Venus, Ca. AKA muscle beach with my college roommate, Adam. This trip changed my life forever. I was introduced to the top trainers and nutrition coaches in the world. I began to learn all the secrets to exercise and dieting that no one else back in Colorado knew about. I even started sharing this knowledge with my college professors. I started to apply this knowledge to my own training right away and won my first competition in 1995 which happen to be the year I graduated college and started coaching others full time. I went on to become Mr. Colorado 1998 and nationally ranked in 2000-2002. I realized that knowledge really is power. I did not have great genetics or special in any way but I did have the knowledge and secrets it takes to transform the body. Working hard on exercise and diet is not enough. We all have to know how to exercise and how to diet to get real results.
Some of the secrets I am talking about are applying maximum kinetic angles to all my exercises in the gym, how to maximize my cardio workouts, and how to create a diet plan that will work specially for me.
Let me give you some tips to think about. When you go into your gym, before starting your workout think about how to maximize your efforts and energy. I tell my clients all the time, any monkey can come into the gym and move weights around but it takes knowledge and focus to maximize your muscles to contract and function to allow for maximum results: this is done by using focal points on the body (the exact mental location to focus on pulling or pushing from). For example, when you bench press the focal point is not pushing from the hands but from the elbows, which will allow the chest muscle to contract fully, and not the triceps or shoulder muscles. This type of training can super charge your results in a matter of weeks, not years. Another tip is, perform your cardio first thing in the morning before eating any food. This will force you body to use stored, brown adipose, fat for energy not blood sugar. Perform this cardio more than 20 minutes. Studies show it can take that long to get into full fat burning mode. Keep track or your heart rate, which should reach a level that will just allow you to talk to another person.
Food is the biggest struggle for most people. It is difficult to know what to eat and when to eat it. All though everyone is different, I will give some general tips. Think of your day as a bell curve. The morning starts low, by mid day the curve has increased to the highest point and by nighttime the bell curve is back to low point. Think how to keep your metabolism high at all times called Dietary Thermogenesis. Eat most of the carbs in the morning and mid day. Do not eat carbs after 4pm and try not to eat at all after 8pm.
Try not to ever eat just carbs by itself without protein. A hormonal balance must always take place or fat will store in the body. A little saying I use is eat like a king in the morning, eat like a prince in the mid day, and eat like a commoner for dinner. Haha.

I can write a book on how the body works and tips for exercise and diet, but I don’t have enough room in this article. I hope these little tips can help.
I recommend anyone out there that is seeking more knowledge for power, to do your homework finding a qualified professional to design a plan and teach you about the body. Sad to say, but its my opinion that 90% of people in my field are not properly qualified to teach others about the body. Be careful when trusting and paying for this knowledge. God Bless.

Week 6

I am honored to have the opportunity to share with you the 7 steps I took to have a new life after the darkness I experienced back in fall of 2005. I was in a car accident that left me with a broken body and a broken soul. Life as I knew it was over. I had to be open to learn a new way of living or I was going to die. Over the next 7 weeks I am going to share with you how I over came my bondage in hopes it will reach someone out there that may need help with their own life.
Here are the steps I took to create a new way of living.
*Desperation
*Acceptance
*Surrender
*Goal Setting
*Knowledge is Power
*Visualization/Power of The Mind
*Accountability/Commitment

This is a seven-week series discussing one step of freedom each week.
Week one I explained the first step, which is Desperation. I define this as” when the pain of self is greater than the pain of change.”
Week two, I explained the second step to which is Acceptance. My definition is: the ability to have self-approval of one’s currant state. In other words being able to identify exactly where you are in life is key for all of us to make it clear where we need to go to have freedom and peace.
Week three I talked about the third step to freedom, which is Surrender. I define this as having the willingness to follow another way of living.
Week four I talked about Goal Setting, which is step four. My definition is “the process of defining the purpose and steps to accomplish a change in one’s life.”
Week five I talked about step five which is Knowledge is Power. My definition of this is the acquired know how to optimize progress toward a personal goal..
This week I will talk about step six which is Visualization/Power of the Mind. I define this as the practice and ability to mentally project positive outcomes with conviction and truth. In other words being able to close your eyes and see a result come true and believe it. This step, in my opinion, is the hardest step to grasp. Very few people in the world understand what this means. Most people are just robots that go through life aimlessly without knowing of this power source in life.
Let me give you a couple of examples in my own life.. Back when I was training for the Mr. Colorado, I would take a few minutes every morning, close my eyes, and visualize myself up on stage. I would mentally see the crowd, see the judges, and smell the back stage pump up room. I could see the head judge giving me the winning trophy. I did this everyday for sixteen weeks. After about four weeks of doing this I began to truly believe I was going to win. I changed my belief system because I reprogrammed my mind. This kept me motivated and determined to keep training harder and harder.
This visualization technique resulted in me creating positive affirmations and a positive “law of attraction”. I believe this technique manifested the actual event to come true.
Another example is when I was recovery from my darkness after the car accident and broken neck in 2005. After hitting rock bottom I had to learn these tools all over again, except this time my life depended on it. Looking back on it now I see my Mr. Colorado training experience was nothing compare to over coming the hell of the winter of 2005-2006.
First I had to create a gratitude list. This was very hard because I felt I had nothing to be thankful for but I had to reprogram my mind to be positive or I was going to die. So, I started my list by being thankful for a roof over my head, food in my stomach, and people that loved me. I thanked God everyday for those three things for a long time. It helped me to focus on positive not so much negative. The second thing I did everyday is look for someone to help that was hurting. This helped me to get out of myself on a regular basis. The third thing I did everyday was to force myself to speak positively to other people no matter how I was feeling. I may have been dieing inside in negativity but I would smile and say, hey it’s a good day today. I heard a slogan one time that said, “fake it til you make it”, and that is what I did. IT was all about reprogram my brain chemistry to think and function differently. And the fourth thing I did is spend time in the morning and at night visualizing myself being happy, successful, fit, healthy, being in good relationships, and being close to God. In reality I didn’t have any of those things at the time, but I mentally saw myself living this abundant life. I used the same technique I used training for the Mr. Colorado. I did this everyday for six months and these things started to happen to me. A year and a half the actual accident itself I was in a great romantic relationship, greats friends, making good money, and was closer to God than ever before.
I believe the human race is naturally negative and self-defeating. It takes practicing these techniques on a regular basis to reprogram our minds to be positive and victorious in life. I am living proof that people can change. I want to challenge anyone out there that is feeling defeated and down to take control of your life. You may think you can’t change your life but you are wrong. It does not matter what your circumstances are, you can make things turn around if you take the time to:
*Speak positively at all times
*Visualize your life where you want it to be on a daily basis
* Tell yourself 3 times a day that life is good and it’s a great day. No matter how you
truly feel that day. Fake it til you make it.
*Tell yourself you are worthy of being happy and joyful
*List five things you are grateful for everyday. No matter how you truly feel.
Find someone to help each and everyday.

Week 7

I am honored to have the opportunity to share with you the 7 steps I took to have a new life after the darkness I experienced back in fall of 2005. I was in a car accident that left me with a broken body and a broken soul. Life as I knew it was over. I had to be open to learn a new way of living or I was going to die. Over the next 7 weeks I am going to share with you how I over came my bondage in hopes it will reach someone out there that may need help with their own life.
Here are the steps I took to create a new way of living.
*Desperation
*Acceptance
*Surrender
*Goal Setting
*Knowledge is Power
*Visualization/Power of The Mind
*Accountability/Commitment

This is a seven-week series discussing one step of freedom each week.
Week one I explained the first step, which is Desperation. I define this as” when the pain of self is greater than the pain of change.”
Week two, I explained the second step to which is Acceptance. My definition is: the ability to have self-approval of one’s currant state. In other words being able to identify exactly where you are in life is key for all of us to make it clear where we need to go to have freedom and peace.
Week three I talked about the third step to freedom, which is Surrender. I define this as having the willingness to follow another way of living.
Week four I talked about Goal Setting, which is step four. My definition is “the process of defining the purpose and steps to accomplish a change in one’s life.”
Week five I talked about step five which is Knowledge is Power. My definition of this is the acquired know how to optimize progress toward a personal goal..
Week six I talked about step six which is Visualization/Power of the Mind. I define this as the practice and ability to mentally project positive outcomes with conviction and truth.
This week I talk about the final step to Freedom, which is Accountability/Commitment. I define this as the verbal, written, or mental state to agree for a personal line of action. In other words, having some form of an agreement with someone or something for a change in your life. In my experience, this step is the number one reason people do not obtain permanent change in life. Lets face it; no one wants to change because this usually involves discomfort. It’s in our nature to avoid discomfort. This is especially true in America. We all are conditioned to get instant satisfaction and relief for any and all things. I compare our country with other countries and I get sick to my stomach when it comes to discipline and sacrifices for the better good of personal development. We are so used to avoiding accountability and commitment because our society has made it so easy to push a button, make a call, or drive through and you get what ever you desire. If you think I am wrong look at our divorce rate, obesity problem, prescription drug problem, alcoholism problem, pornography problem, etc.
Let me give you an example in the fitness world. A couple months ago I had a 44-year-old woman come in my office asking for help. I asked her about her past and she told me she had tried 6 different weight loss programs in her life that have all failed.
She told me every one of these programs were from a book, magazine, or from the Internet. I ask her what is the missing ingredient from each of these programs? She paused and said, “I don’t know.” I said, “Accountability”. Our human nature demands that we have some kind of accountability to acquire true change. I told her that she must realize that change is uncomfortable and if we don’t structure a committed accountability system then no one will know when you struggle or cheat a program which will most likely result in quitting. It does not matter what kind of change you want to accomplish in your life, we all need to report to someone about that change. Our natural instinct is to be lazy and complacent. Change is something that demands a strategy and a proven system that works in whatever area of life you want to improve. In my experience, 10% of people can change on their own with out this seventh step. So, there is a 90% chance that if you must have this step in your life if you want to be successful in change.. Remember that it takes 21 days to make or break a habit, so I suggest committing yourself to change no matter how you feel about it for 21 days and science tells us that we will have a mental change about that discomfort. We will start to see this change as normal and acceptable in our lives. 70% of all people that start a fitness program on January first quit by February 14th while 50% of people that start fitness plan the rest of the year quit inside of 6 months. My fitness business has an 85% success rate within 90 days. The reason for this is because I have accountability / coaching system built in my system. This proves that everyone needs accountability to be successful at change. This can result in changing our daily actions. Did you know that 90% of our actions are based on our habits? Just imagine if you had personal power to change some bad habits: you would have the power to change most things about your life, well guess what, you can….
An accountability / commitment example in my life would be when I was training for the Mr. Colorado championships. I was working out three to five hours per day. There were many times when I wanted to quit but I knew I had to report to my bodybuilding coach every week. Knowing I was accountable and committed to him helped me stay on track, not to miss any workouts, and not to quit. I am like every one else in the world. I know if I want to accomplish something or change something about my life I have to set up this step in my life. I understand that my human nature is to be complacent and not take on any discomfort. Knowing this about myself helps me not to beat myself up if I stubble, but it is my fault if I decide not to set up a game plan and a strategy that will lead to my success in life. I am responsible for my own actions.
I wrote this seven steps to freedom series because I wanted to share with the public how I changed my entire life in hopes it may help someone else out there.
So, in conclusion, the first three steps in building the foundation needed to change your life. Steps four and five is developing the game plan needed to accomplish this new freedom. Steps six and seven is the missing link, in my opinion, in our society.
I truly believe if anyone follows these seven steps, there is nothing you cannot accomplish or change in your life.
God bless and remember to always: RISE ABOVE!!

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